When we think about security cameras, we often associate them with keeping us safe from the outside world. But sometimes, they capture something else entirely: the love, care, and community that surround us in our most vulnerable moments.
That’s exactly what happened in the now-viral video shared by Instagram creator @curlswithapromise. With over 7.5 million views, the video titled “Views From My Front Door Camera After My Miscarriage” has struck a deeply emotional chord with millions around the world.
In the video, we see family, friends, and even delivery drivers dropping off meals, flowers, and small tokens of love at her doorstep. It’s not just a video—it’s a testament to the power of showing up for someone in their time of need.
A club no one wants to join
Miscarriage is often described as a silent grief. It’s a loss that many experience but few talk about openly. According to the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists (ACOG), up to 1 in 4 pregnancies end in miscarriage, yet societal stigma often prevents open conversations about the experience.
In her caption, @curlswithapromise shares the heartbreak of learning her baby had stopped growing just shy of nine weeks. “I was close to 12 weeks when I went in for my D&C,” she writes. She also describes the bittersweet experience of having to tell her closest circle about both her pregnancy and her miscarriage at the same time.
But alongside that pain came something unexpected: a community of people who stepped in to hold her up when she needed it most. “I allowed my village to come restore me,” she writes. “They brought food, shared their time with me, loved on my family, and just gave me space to be. It healed me.”
Related: 6 things I learned from my miscarriage experience
The healing power of community
For so many women who experience miscarriage, isolation compounds the grief. But as this video shows, healing often begins when we allow others to step into our pain. The comments on the video overflow with stories of loss, love, and longing for support.
- “The way your village showed up for you is beautiful, but your ability to let them is the most beautiful piece of this.”
- “Not me bawling & feeling so deeply for you. So thankful you have people who love you and care for you and showed up during this.”
- “When I was having a miscarriage and bleeding for 4 weeks no one came to see me… The only person who helped was my neighbor who let me use her bath and filled it with candles and rose petals. It meant so much to me in that moment.”
These comments highlight a universal truth: grief can feel unbearable when faced alone. But when others show up—whether with a meal, a listening ear, or even a warm bath—they help restore what feels broken.
How to support someone after a miscarriage
If you’re wondering how to support someone who has experienced a miscarriage, it starts with simply showing up. Here are a few suggestions, informed by experts and shared experiences:
- Offer your presence, not just your words.
While saying “I’m sorry for your loss” is thoughtful, being physically present can mean even more. Drop off meals, help with household tasks, or simply sit with them in their grief.
(Source: Mayo Clinic) - Avoid clichés and unsolicited advice.
Phrases like “It wasn’t meant to be” or “At least you can try again” can feel dismissive. Instead, acknowledge their pain and let them lead the conversation.
(Source: March of Dimes) - Give space for their grief, on their timeline.
Everyone grieves differently. Some may want to talk about their loss; others may need time alone. Be patient and follow their cues.
(Source: American Pregnancy Association) - Be consistent.
Support doesn’t have to end after the first few weeks. Continue to check in, offer help, and remind them they’re not alone in the months that follow.
(Source: Tommy’s)
Related: What to say when your friend has a miscarriage
When grief meets gratitude
In her post, @curlswithapromise writes, “I remember feeling so blessed to have had such a sweet healing process and people I can mourn and rejoice with.” She ends with a reminder to those who may not have the same kind of support: “Stay open and allow at least one person to sit with you in your grief.”
This video is a powerful example of what it means to show up for others—and to allow others to show up for you. It reminds us that even in the darkest moments, community can bring light.
If you’re grieving a miscarriage, know that you are not alone, and you are not broken. Healing takes time, but support can make the journey feel less overwhelming.
